This perception, and it is a myth, by the way, comes from the difference in how men and women handle stress. Men react to stress with a “fight or flight” response, because they are ruled by testosterone, the hormone that makes them hunters, workers, achievers, fixers and fighters. Women, on the other hand, react to stress with a “tend and befriend” strategy.

Oxytocin, the hormone that governs women, creates their desire to smooth over and calm down stressful situations. These hormonal reactions are directly responsible for your man’s need for space and activity and to feel free of demands on his life and time.

The opposite hormonal response is why women seek friendships, nurture babies, and create loving happy families. Each sex feels more fulfilled when their opposite needs are respected, nurtured, and understood.

So girls, the next time you wonder why your man kicks in with his “fight or flight” response when all you want to do is cuddle and discuss your future, remember that he is ruled by testosterone, and you are driven by the opposite hormone, oxytocin. Would you really have it any other way? Write your thoughts to the Love Doctor, Kerry@Dontdatehimgirl, and stay tuned to learn why the idea that men run from relationships is a myth.